I mean, right?!
Look, people have the right to be negative, but you have the right to take yourself away from it!
As a rehabbing negative Nellie, I can tell you it is way more fun and way more uplifting to not be that person.
I can say this because, I’ve been on both ends. I used to be that super negative person. I used to be the person heaping my negativity onto others, bringing them down and killing the feel good vibes.
And this is hard for some people to imagine, they express surprise when I mention how bad I was and how I was called out on it. Their surprise is honestly the most wonderful feeling, because it means I’m THAT FAR removed from being that person!
It means I have come so far, and worked so hard, and spent copious amounts of time battling my mindset.
I still battle it, I likely always will… but those negative thoughts are now the exception, not the rule, and life is just so much better that way!
Now, where are my tacos? 🌮
The best way to come back from a day full of everyone else’s negativity? Crush your workout with weights almost 1/5 your body weight…
I’m just saying, you can let it fuel you or let it frustrate you – yesterday it frustrated me, but today it fueled me!
Yesterday included someone who doesn’t think deaf people should be able to drive (or is at the very least BAFFLED by how we CAN drive), an idiot who thinks my sports bras are too revealing (at least that’s what I got from their absolutely illiterate comment), a nutter who went on a VERY LONG tirade against an interest of mine on an old pic, and someone who thinks I am wasting my money on having soft hearing molds instead of the firm ones, because that concept called “personal preferences” is apparently outdated?
I am human, yesterday was a lot of fuckery condensed into a short amount of time.
And battling the negativity yesterday frustrated and drained me…
Today, it fuels me!
Any fellow meditaters here? I had never really done it (I struggle with sitting still, nevermind not even THINKING anything) but it was an exercise we did at a recent Team Retreat, and I actually loved it. I did notice some thoughts creeping in, but redirected them back towards focusing on my breathing, and it was a nice release, it felt good and I definitely intend to make it part of my every day life!
I have been trying to do it several times a week to get in the habit… it is ripe with benefits, these are just a few!
If you meditate, what is another benefit you notice?
Happy Friday! Are you guilty of this? I used to be, but I worked really hard to correct that behavior, because honestly it serves NO purpose! My workouts are NEVER perfect, and I almost ALWAYS have to modify at least ONE move. THAT’S OKAY! What matters is I showed up. It doesn’t matter what I didn’t do, or what I modified.
If you find yourself speaking negatively about yourself or your efforts, rectify it by immediately talking positively about yourself. For example, instead of “how could you not do all of the pushups on your toes?! FAILURE!”, say “Wow, you did all of the pushups – modified only means you will get stronger and someday you will be doing those babies on your toes!”
You get the point. Tolerate absolutely NO negative self banter!
Can I get an eff yeah?!
I will own that I used to be the WORST offender of this – I cringe to thing of how negative I was. I’m still grateful to my mentors for calling me on it and TELLING, not suggesting, I work on this extensively. Best thing I could have done.
Which is why now, other peoples negativity really stands out more, I feel it and I feel the effects of it so much clearer. It was really draining me, which is why I have gotten better with distancing myself from negativity, allowing myself that space, without guilt.
Sometimes thats just what you need. It recharges you. It helps you remember what really matters, what to focus your energy on.
I have too many awesome things to do to let energy vampires steal it all!
Reformed person here! I never realized just how much energy I gave to the negative until two of my mentors basically called me on it.
WHAT. AN. EYEOPENER.
I should note that I am still very much a work in progress, and in the current state of the world it is easy to be sucked into negativity – but I have also developed practices to help myself get out of the negative rut – Tapping, journaling, sometimes even writing it out and then burning it…
Negativity is easy, but… so isn’t positivity! That’s what you need to spread, that’s what you need to focus your energies on. There is always good happening in your life, we just don’t always see it because the negative blinds us.
But as someone who was once bogged down by negativity, truly, there is hope… you have to LET GO of the negative mindset, because it’s not serving you! I fought that for a long time, but I started Tapping daily, and it made it easier to recognize it wasn’t doing anything for me, in fact it was only bringing those around me down with me, because I was spreading it!
Truly, Tapping has made a HUGE difference in my life, huge. I am so grateful for my mentors for not only calling me out on my negativity, but OFFERING solutions to combat it.
I don’t thank them enough for that!
My friend’s mother said this and it really stuck with me; I find it so true.
Every single one of us impacts the world. Whether that impact is positive or negative, is up to us entirely.
Do good. Have a positive impact!