Thursday Thoughts – Growth is Radical

I went to an old former workplace the other day – I started my time there a little over 16 years ago when I was a 20 year old baby, and I haven’t worked there in over 11 years…

I ran into a few of my favorite coworkers, one whom hadn’t seen me in years, and she was just gobsmacked (and gushing, because she’s the sweetest little lady EVER) that I look exactly the same and when I said something sassy, she remarked that I am just the same as I ever was… and it alarmed me a little how quick I was to correct her and say “oh no, I have grown, I have evolved, I am no longer anyone’s doormat, and if the shit this place – customers, contractors and coworkers alike – put me through then were to happen now, there would be a lot more hurt feelings out there courtesy of ME.”

And she was just stunned. And so proud, she got tears in her eyes and she was just so blown away by how I found my voice, my confidence, my self esteem, and my sense of self worth. The two of them were A L W A Y S trying to instill my sense of self worth, they were ALWAYS trying to coax my confidence out of me.

And I don’t mean to sound rude or self righteous, but there were MANY, many years where I just did not stand up for myself; I tolerated mental and emotional abuse, and it was often my coworkers who stood up for me and got hell raisers on their way.

So it’s freakin’ empowering to see how I have grown!

I don’t love that there was a period in my life where I felt it was causing conflict to stand up for myself… but it just means I can look back now and realize how truly far I have come – it inspires me, and I won’t be going back to that shy, meek person who never was sure of her own worth.

Growth is freakin’ radical as eff, feel me?

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GratiTuesday – Car Payment

I made the first payment on this babe today!

Do I love having a car payment again after almost 3 years without one? I mean I wouldn’t mind the balance being zero… just keeping it real!

… but …

I do love that I am paying for a car I actually LOVE.
I love that I have the means to GET myself a reliable vehicle.
I love that I have worked SO HARD to rebuild my credit that I didn’t need a cosigner OR to accept a double-digit interest rate.
I love that my little side gig helps me pay for it. (could you use a side gig for some extra cash?)
And I love being reminded that I had the confidence to buy her on my own, something I honestly never thought I would have the confidence to do (we’ll chalk most of that up to the fact my ears function poorly 😉)

So yes… bills can certainly serve as a reminder of things we are {{ BLESSED }} to have!

Is your vehicle paid off?

Transformation Tuesday – You Can’t IMPROVE If You Don’t BEGIN

5 years ago, a 25 minute cardio workout would floor me (as in, I’d lay on the floor for minutes after, trying to catch my breath and process what the eff just happened!)

5 years ago, I couldn’t do a real push-up to save my life (I mean, I suppose if you held a gun to my head, the adrenaline might work in my favor… but it wouldn’t be pretty!)

5 years ago I couldn’t even run half a mile without cramping up and struggling to breath (and now 3 miles is a shorter run for me!)

I could go on and on.

5 years ago I couldn’t do a LOT of things that I can do now.

And that’s not to be braggy, it’s to show you the power of consistency – every day you show up, you get better. Stronger. Faster.

It comes easier – not because what you couldn’t do CHANGED, but because YOU CHANGED.

{{ BUT YOU HAVE TO SHOW UP }}

For 5 years now I have been showing up daily, consistently (and yes, I do pride myself on my consistency because many days, the struggle is fuckin’ real!) and working on myself.

I joined arms with others wanting to work on themselves, and together we push, we progress. The support and accountability have been GAME CHANGERS.

Some of these changes have physical transformations, but the real power lies in MENTALLY realizing I am capable of a lot more than I give myself credit for. And it’s empowering to continue to work towards being ABLE to do what I may not CURRENTLY be able to do.

You can’t IMPROVE if you don’t BEGIN.

YOU are the best damn project you will ever work on… are you ready to show up daily {{ FOR YOURSELF }} and ditch the excuses?! Let’s do it!

Thursday Thoughts – Six Ways to Rule The World

Don’t YOU wanna rule the world?

  1. Live your life as if you are famous (because you are gonna be, yeah?!) – be nice to people on the way up! Don’t act jealous, arrogant, condescending, or insecure.
  2. Put – and KEEP – your game face on at work! Stay positive, upbeat, witty, humble, and curious. Don’t use your job as a form of therapy – look UP, not down!
  3. BE YOU – stay true to the values that define you. Holding onto them will help you ride over the tough spots in life, and help you stay authentic on your climb to the top!
  4. Make yourself indispensable at work – take initiative, be helpful, be a hard worker… make it so your coworkers wonder what they would do without you!
  5. It’s not up for debate – it’s okay to stand up for and present contrary ideas, and think outside of the box, but it’s still important to LISTEN to your boss – they got where they are for a reason, and you can learn something from them!
  6. Run TOWARDS change – the most successful women do just this, instead of running FROM change. Do something that takes courage – remember, if it doesn’t work out, it’s not permanent!

Any others to add?

Self Love Saturday – Happy Place

YOU are special. There is no other person in this world like YOU. You deserve to be loved… not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life — YOU. Self-love can be challenging for many of us, especially when faced with serious challenges, but… spoiler alert: it’s necessary to practice self-love so we can PUSH THROUGH our limiting beliefs and LIVE a life that truly SHINES.

Go to your happy place when you are going through hard times, or imagine yourself being there. Think about how it feels, what it smells like, what it looks like.