“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, and the lesson afterwards”
There IS a lesson in all situations… if you keep coming to the same situation, you haven’t yet learned the lesson.
It’s like if you put your hand on a hot stove, and get burned… if you learn that a hot stove will burn you, you learn not to put your hands on a hot stove anymore. But if you keep putting your hands on a hot stove, you haven’t learned the lesson, so you keep getting burned.
A lesson it took me a while to learn is that holding onto my disappointment/anger/resentment does not hurt the people who caused me to feel that way, so I was constantly cycling and expending energy on it. Once I learned that it was really only hurting ME, things started clicking and the lesson started making sense, so it became a little easier (not easy, just easier!) to let that ish go!